Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Adult World!

Recently I have been sick which was totally unexpected, and therefore I couldn't blog. I am sorry about that!

Though today I hope you enjoy it, just like the others.

I want to talk not about abuse today. I want to talk about the reality of growing up and facing the adult life. 

Most kids out of high school, like myself, want to enjoy their last summer! Which of course I did, but the time is almost over and now I have to face the adult world. 

I have to juggle college, a job, paying bills, and whatever else the world decides I need to handle. 

Right now I want to say honestly, REALITY SUCKS! Though I know that with hard work, and dedication I can accomplish anything I put my mind to! I know that I will make it, and in just a few short years, I will be doing something I love! 

I have may feel that I have to much to handle, but this is only the beginning. I watch my parents everyday, pay bills, go to work, put gas in the car, support our wants, and our needs, and buy things at random, but I also know that they do that because they work hard, and have learned how to manage and handle their money. I know that I will one day understand how to accomplish, and push through all my trails and tribulations in the real world by learning.

Everything we do in this life is important. How we handle our time, but also how we spend it. I know for those that are experiencing what I am for the first time, is that we can make it! We are strong willed people, we just have to set our minds on what we want and go for it. If ever there is a speed bump, take it slow, because soon your done, and you get over it. Continue your dreams, and achieve as much as you can!

Hope that everyone is doing well, and today was better than yesterday, and tomorrow is better than today!


Love always,

Friday, July 26, 2013


We all have scary moments in our lives that leave us speechless. We are at a loss for words. Who do we tell? HOW do we tell?

Majority of the time, saying what ever the problem is, is what conflicts us the most, and it is the hardest thing to do. Though, lying never got anyone anywhere. "The truth will set you free!". The truth will always be the right path. It will bring you good karma.

I have always known that lying was bad. But an occasional white lie I thought would never hurt anyone. But then I looked at myself and my perception on what I want from another human being, and that is not a lie. I do not want someone to tell me a lie, even if it's a white little lie. I want the truth, always. I know that everyone else in this world wants the truth! Sometimes it may be hard to hear, but it will definitely benefit us in the end.

I kept a lie for a really, really long time. A lie that was endangering my life. If I didn't say some quickly, and fast enough, I could have risked it for others in my family of being a victim! That I would not be able to handle.

I will tell you the truth, as I always have. I lied to the cops the first time they came to my house. I told them everything was great and my life was perfect, and I had everything I wanted. I said anything that would get them off my case, and anything they would believe.

I suffered the consequence of bad karma when I lied.

Months went by. The cops came and went. Everything was "settled", at least I thought it was. Then "IT" happened again!

I knew that lying was a bad idea, and I suffered the consequence, but I know also that it wasn't my fault. I knew that it was God giving me a second chance to set things right so He could help me find the right path.

If something serious is happening in your life, don't be afraid to confide in someone, never know when their help will save your life, or make your day better!


Love always,

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Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Handling Frustration?

Frustration can be really over bearing at times. Especially when you are a victim or survivor of abuse. Why? Because when you are living your life, day to day, then you have one off moment, and everything makes you irritable, all the old memories, or the current ones come rushing through your mind. You over think everything. The thing is, you are only making it worse. You do it, sometimes unintentional, and it just builds and builds to your mind, and to your body.

I don't know about most of you, but I know that I do not do well with confrontation, and situations that have so much negativity. I am a very sweet person, but I am human just like anyone else. I get angry. I get frustrated.

I now know how to handle those situations, but before, I felt like I had no control over my emotions, and how to handle them. So I talked to a professional. She was the sweetest lady. She asked me a series of questions, like, "What do you like to do for fun? What triggers you to get angry so quickly? Have you ever tried to handle your emotions? Try to calm yourself down?" and last, but not least, she asked, "Have you ever tried journaling whenever you get angry, or upset, or even when you are happy?" I answered all her questions honestly. And when I responded to her last question, that I did not journal, she was shocked. She also had a huge smile across her face. It was like she knew the solution to my problem. She stood up, walked over to a drawer, and handed me a spiraled notebook, and said "I know it's not a real 'journal' but it will do the trick for now." she continued and said, "For the next week I want to go home and journal. Whenever you feel frustrated, bothered, annoyed, upset, or HAPPY, write it down. Express it in your own words. This your place, your privacy, let how you really feel down on this paper, and when you come back tell me how it worked!"

Of course the next week I went back feeling a lot better than I did the week before. I continued to journal everyday, and when things started getting better, I noticed I would journal less. It really helped me. It let me get out all my true emotions. It let me, be ME! I could say all the things I couldn't to someone else. The anger got easier to control, because I knew that if I just breathed, and walked away, I could write it down. Say what I wanted to say and make peace with that.

There are other ways to try and handle your anger, you can work out, swim, dance, meditate, anything that releases that negative energy, do it!

I hope that this how connected to you, and that it has helped you in some way!

With love, Xoxo!

Love always,

Monday, July 15, 2013


Decisions are hard to make sometimes. The difficulty is more endowed when you have to make decisions about people. Who should you take places? Are they telling the truth? Am I making the right decisions with this person? Everything we do has a consequence, whether it's negative or positive. We just pray and hope that the outcome is positive. So how do we make these decisions? I have no clue. I am still learning, though I'm sure people that have already lived a long life are still trying to figure it out as well. 

Decisions that we dwell upon will never be easy. But we have to take a chance, a leap of faith, and just hope the everyone is understanding, and everyone is supporting with whatever we decide.

I know I had to make a very, very crucial decision once in my life. It wasn't easy, but I had to take care of myself, and make sure that I was safe in the end. That I, in the end, could find myself at peace and true happiness. That I was surrounded with positive energy. I was letting my abuse continue, and I wasn't happy with my life. Though I was absolutely petrified by the idea of telling someone the truth. Sexual and emotional abuse, any type of abuse for that matter, is very hard to handle, especially when you are really young, and growing. 

These situations that we are put in, where we have to make decisions, are in our lives for a reason. TO LEARN! To grow from the trails and tribulations that we are put through because of the outcome of our decisions. We all have so much courage, strength, and tenacity that we carry within ourselves, it helps us move forward with our lives, and helps us gain the knowledge that we need to survive in this cruel, real world. Without the difficulty of making these decisions we would have nothing in our lives. 

I know that you may think that it is easier said than done, and it is, but know that the courage that you have within yourself, is strong enough to make any decision no matter the outcome!

We live in a world where we don't know the future, we don't know how things are going to be shaped. Therefore, we have to live now. Trust our gut feelings, and make the decisions! Will we distinguish everything that happens in our lives. 

So now I tell you to just believe in yourself, and do what you have to do for you, because in the end that is what is most important! 

“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.

The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience. 

If this sounds too mystical, refer again to the body. Every significant vital sign- body temperature, heart rate, oxygen consumption, hormone level, brain activity, and so on- alters the moment you decide to do anything… decisions are signals telling your body, mind, and environment to move in a certain direction.” 
― Deepak ChopraThe Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life
You can get more inspiring quote on decisions at: http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/decision-making

I hope everyone is doing well in the world! 

With lots of love! Xoxo

Love always,

Email me if you have any questions, or you just want to vent!